I find Scott Peck's
chapter on the essential nature of community tremendously
insightful, coming as it does from personal experience. Peck's
perspective is that of a committed Christian, but as he himself
points out, his Christian basis is only one among many, community
being inclusive rather than exclusive. In what follows, other
perspectives will emerge. It is to be hoped that Peck's Christian
metaphor will not be a deterrent to the receiving of his message
for more "secular" readers. There is no inherent reason it should
be!
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- THE DIFFERENT
DRUM:
- Community Making and
Peace
- by M. Scott Peck,
M.D.
- (footnotes are at the
end)
- CHAPTER III
- The True Meaning of
Community
-
- In our culture of rugged
individualism - in which we generally feel that we dare not be
honest about ourselves, even with the person in the pew next to us
- we bandy around the word "community." We apply it to almost any
collection of individuals - a town, a church, a synagogue, a
fraternal organization, an apartment complex, a professional
association - regardless of how poorly those individuals
communicate with each other. It is a false use of the
word.
-
- If we are going to use the word
meaningfully we must restrict it to a group of individuals who
have learned how to communicate honestly with each other, whose
relationships go deeper than their masks of composure, and who
have developed some significant commitment to "rejoice together,
mourn together," and to "delight in each other, make others'
conditions our own." But what, then, does such a rare group look
like? How does it function? What is a true definition of
community?
-
- We can define or adequately explain
only those things that are smaller than we are. I have in my
office, for instance, a very handy little electrical space heater.
If I were an electrical engineer, I could take it apart and
explain to you - define - exactly how it works. Except for one
thing. That is the matter of the cord and plug that connect it
with something called electricity. And there are certain questions
about electricity, despite its known physical laws, that even the
most advanced electrical engineer cannot answer. That is because
electricity is something larger than we are.
-
- There are many such "things": God,
goodness, love, evil, death, consciousness, for instance. Being so
large, they are many-faceted, and the best we can do is describe
or define one facet at a time. Even so, we never seem quite able
to plumb their depths fully. Sooner or later we inevitably run
into a core of mystery.
-
- Community is another such
phenomenon. Like electricity, it is profoundly lawful. Yet there
remains something about it that is inherently mysterious,
miraculous, unfathomable. Thus there is no adequate one-sentence
definition of genuine community. Community is something more than
the sum of its parts, its individual members. What is this
"something more?" Even to begin to answer that, we enter a realm
that is not so much abstract as almost mystical. It is a realm
where words are never fully suitable and language itself falls
short.
- The analogy of a gem comes to mind.
The seeds of community reside in humanity - a social species -
just as a gem originally resides in the earth. But it is not yet a
gem, only a potential one. So it is that geologists refer to a gem
in the rough simply as a stone. A group becomes a community in
somewhat the same way that a stone becomes a gem - through a
process of cutting and polishing. Once cut and polished, it is
something beautiful. But to describe its beauty, the best we can
do is to describe its facets. Community, like a gem, is
multifaceted, each facet a mere aspect of a whole that defies
description.
-
- One other caveat. The gem of
community is so exquisitely beautiful it may seem unreal to you,
like a dream you once had when you were a child, so beautiful it
may seem unattainable. As Bellah and his coauthors put it, the
notion of community "may also be resisted as absurdly Utopian, as
a project to create a perfect society. But the transformation of
which we speak is both necessary and modest. Without it, indeed,
there may be very little future to think about at
all."*
The problem is that the lack of community is so much the norm in
our society, one without experience would be tempted to think, How
could we possibly get there from here? It is possible; we can get
there from here. Remember that to the uninitiated eye it would
seem impossible for a stone ever to become a gem.
- The facets of community are
interconnected, profoundly interrelated. No one could exist
without the other. They create each other, make each other
possible. What follows, then, is but one scheme for isolating and
naming the most salient characteristics of a true
community.
-
- INCLUSIVITY, COMMITMENT, AND
CONSENSUS
-
- Community is and must be inclusive.
The great enemy of community is exclusivity. Groups that exclude
others because they are poor or doubters or divorced or sinners or
of some different race or nationality are not communities; they
are cliques - actually defensive bastions against
community.
-
- Inclusiveness is not an absolute.
Long-term communities must invariably struggle over the degree to
which they are going to be inclusive. Even short-term communities
must sometimes make that difficult decision. But for most groups
it is easier to exclude than include. Clubs and corporations give
little thought to being inclusive unless the law compels them to
do so. True communities, on the other hand, if they want to remain
such, are always reaching to extend themselves. The burden of
proof falls upon exclusivity. Communities do not ask "How can we
justify taking this person in?" Instead the question is "Is it at
all justifiable to keep this person out?" In relation to other
groupings of similar size or purpose, communities are always
relatively inclusive.
-
- In my first experience of community
at Friends Seminary, the boundaries between grades, between
students and teachers, between young and old, were all "soft."
There were no Outgroups - no outcasts. Everyone was welcome at the
parties. There was no pressure to conform. So the inclusiveness of
any community extends along all its parameters. There is an
"allness" to community. It is not merely a matter of including
different sexes, races, and creeds. It is also inclusive of the
full range of human emotions. Tears are as welcome as laughter,
fear as well as faith. And different styles: hawks and doves,
straights and gays, Grailers and Sears, Roebuckers [Note:
these latter terms refer to an account of the effect on everyone
in one of the groups of which Peck was a member of an ideological
split that arose between two very different life-style sub-groups
within the group as a whole, creating much exclusionary
negativitity until its basis in defensive prejudice became
apparent to everyone.] , the talkative and the silent. All
human differences are included. All "soft" individuality is
nurtured.
-
- How is this possible? How can such
differences be absorbed, such different people coexist? Commitment
- the willingness to coexist - is crucial. Sooner or later,
somewhere along the line (and preferably sooner), the members of a
group in some way must commit themselves to one another if they
are to become or stay a community. Exclusivity, the great enemy to
community, appears in two forms: excluding the other and excluding
yourself. If you conclude under your breath, "Well, this group
just isn't for me - they're too much this or too much that - and
I'm just going to quietly pick up my marbles and go home," it
would be as destructive to community as it would be to a marriage
were you to conclude, "Well, the grass looks a little greener on
the other side of the fence, and I'm just going to move on."
Community, like marriage, requires that we hang in there when the
going gets a little rough. lt requires a certain degree of
commitment. lt is no accident that Bellah et al. subtitled their
work Individualism and Commitment in American Life. Our
individualism must be counter-balanced by commitment.
-
- If we do hang in there, we usually
find after a while that "the rough places are made plain." A
friend correctly defined community as a "group that has learned to
transcend its individual differences." But this learning takes
time, the time that can be bought only through commitment.
"Transcend" does not mean "obliterate" or "demolish." lt literally
means "to climb over." The achievement of community can be
compared to the reaching of a mountaintop.
-
- Perhaps the most necessary key to
this transcendence is the appreciation of differences. In
community, instead of being ignored, denied, hidden, or changed,
human differences are celebrated as gifts. Remember how I came to
appreciate Lily's "gift of Howing," and she my "gift of
organization [his wife, also mentioned in an earlier
chapter]." Marriage is, of course, a small, long-term
community of two. Yet in short-term communities of even fifty or
sixty, while the timing and depth are almost opposite, I have
found that the dynamics are the same. The transformation of
attitudes toward each other that allowed Lily and me to transcend
our differences took twenty years. But this same transcendence can
routinely occur within a community-building group over the course
of eight hours. In each case alienation is transformed into
appreciation and reconciliation. And in each case the
transcendence has a good deal to do with love.
-
- We are so unfamiliar with genuine
community that we have never developed an adequate vocabulary for
the politics of this transcendence. When we ponder on how
individual differences can be accommodated, perhaps the first
mechanism we turn to (probably because it is the most childlike)
is that of the strong individual leader. Differences, like those
of squabbling siblings, we instinctively think can be resolved by
a mommy or daddy - a benevolent dictator, or so we hope. But
community, encouraging individuality as it does, can never be
totalitarian. So we jump to a somewhat less primitive way of
resolving individual differences which we call democracy. We take
a vote, and the majority determines which differences prevail.
Majority rules. Yet that process excludes the aspirations of the
minority. How do we transcend differences in such a way as to
include a minority? It seems like a conundrum. How and where do
you go beyond democracy?
-
- In the genuine communities of which
I have been a member, a thousand or more group decisions have been
made and I have never yet witnessed a vote. I do not mean to imply
that we can or should discard democratic machinery, any more than
we should abolish organization. But I do mean to imply that a
community, in transcending individual differences, routinely goes
beyond even democracy. In the vocabulary of this transcendence we
thus far have only one word: "consensus." Decisions in genuine
community are arrived at through consensus, in a process that is
not unlike a community of jurors, for whom consensual decision
making is mandated.
-
- Still, how on earth can a group in
which individuality is encouraged, in which individual differences
flourish, routinely arrive at consensus? Even when we develop a
richer language for community operations, I doubt we will ever
have a formula for the consensual process. The process itself is
an adventure. And again there is something inherently almost
mystical, magical about it. But it works. And the other facets of
community will provide hints as to how it does.
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- REALISM
-
- A second characteristic of
community is that it is realistic. In the community of marriage,
for example, when Lily and I discuss an issue, such as how to deal
with one of our children, we are likely to develop a response more
realistic than if either of us were operating alone. If only for
this reason, I believe that it is extremely difficult for a single
parent to make adequate decisions about his or her children. Even
if the best Lily and I can do is to come up with two different
points of view, they modulate each other. In larger communities
the process is still more effective. A community of sixty can
usually come up with a dozen different points of view. The
resulting consensual stew, composed of multiple ingredients, is
usually far more creative than a two-ingredient dish could ever
be.
-
We are accustomed to think of group
behavior as often primitive. Indeed, I myself have written about
the ease with which groups can become
evil.**
"Mob psychology" is properly a vernacular expression. But groups
of whatever kind are seldom real communities. There is, in fact,
more than a quantum leap between an ordinary group and a
community; they are entirely different phenomena. And a real
community is, by definition, immune to mob psychology because of
its encouragement of individuality, its inclusion of a variety of
points of view. Time and again I have seen a community begin to
make a certain decision or establish a certain norm when one of
the members will suddenly say, "Wait a minute, I don't think I can
go along with this." Mob psychology cannot occur in an environment
in which individuals are free to speak their minds and buck the
trend. Community is such an environment.
-
- Because a community includes
members with many different points of view and the freedom to
express them, it comes to appreciate the whole of a situation far
better than an individual, couple, or ordinary group can.
Incorporating the dark and the light, the sacred and the profane,
the sorrow and the joy, the glory and the mud, its conclusions are
well rounded. Nothing is likely to be left out. With so many
frames of reference, it approaches reality more and more closely.
Realistic decisions, consequently, are more often guaranteed in
community than in any other human environment.
-
- An important aspect of the realism
of community deserves mention: humility. While rugged
individualism predisposes one to arrogance, the "soft"
individualism of community leads to humility. Begin to appreciate
each others' gifts, and you begin to appreciate your own
limitations. Witness others share their brokenness, and you will
become able to accept your own inadequacy and imperfection. Be
fully aware of human variety, and you
- will recognize the interdependence
of humanity.
-
- As a group of people do these
things - as they become a community - they become more and more
humble, not only as individuals but also as a group - and hence
more realistic. From which kind of group would you expect a wise,
realistic decision: an arrogant one, or a humble one?
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- CONTEMPLATION
-
- Among the reasons that a community
is humble and hence realistic is that it is contemplative. It
examines itself. It is selfaware. It knows itself. "Know thyself"
is a sure rule for humility. As that fourteenth-century classic on
contemplation, The Cloud of Unknowing, put it: "Meekness in
itself is nothing else than a true knowing and feeling of a man's
self as he is. Any man who truly sees and feels himself as he is
must surely be meek indeed."***
-
- The word "contemplative" has a
variety of connotations. Most of them center upon awareness. The
essential goal of contemplation is increased awareness of the
world outside oneself, the world inside oneself, and the
relationship between the two. A man who settles for a relatively
limited awareness of himself could hardly be called contemplative.
It is also questionable whether he could be called psychologically
mature or emotionally healthy. Self-examination is the key to
insight, which is the key to wisdom. Plato put it most bluntly:
"The life which is unexamined is not worth
living."Ý
-
- The community-building process
requires self-examination from the beginning. And as the members
become thoughtful about themselves they also learn to become
increasingly thoughtful about the group. "How are we doing?" they
begin to ask with greater and greater frequency. "Are we still on
target? Are we a healthy group? Have we lost the
spirit?"
-
- The spirit of community once
achieved is not then some-thing forever obtained. It is not
something that can be bottled or preserved in aspic. It is
repeatedly lost. Remember how, toward the end of Mac Badgely's
Tavistock group in 1967, after enjoying hours of nurturing
fellowship, we began to squabble again. But remember also that we
were quick to recognize it because we had become aware of
ourselves as a group. And because we were rapidly able to identify
the cause of the problem - our division into Grailers and Sears,
Roebuckers - we were rapidly able to transcend that division and
recapture the spirit of community.
-
- No community can expect to be in
perpetual good health. What a genuine community does do, however,
because it is a contemplative body, is recognize its ill health
when it occurs and quickly take appropriate action to heal itself.
Indeed, the longer they exist, the more efficient healthy
communities become in this recovery process. Conversely, groups
that never learn to be contemplative either do not become
community in the first place or else rapidly and permanently
disintegrate.
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- A SAFE PLACE
-
- It is no accident that I relearned
"the lost art of crying" at the age of thirty-six while I was in a
true community setting. Despite this relearning, my early training
in rugged individualism was sufficiently effective that even today
I can cry in public only when I am in a safe place. One of my
joys, whenever I return to community, is that the "gift of tears"
is returned to me. I am not alone. Once a group has achieved
community, the single most common thing members express is: "I
feel safe here."
-
- It is a rare feeling. Almost all of
us have spent nearly all of our lives feeling only partially safe,
if at all. Seldom, if ever, have we felt completely free to be
ourselves. Seldom, if ever, in any kind of a group, have we felt
wholly accepted and acceptable. Consequently, virtually everyone
enters a new group situation with his or her guard up. That guard
goes very deep. Even if a conscious attempt is made to be open and
vulnerable, there will still be ways in which unconscious defenses
remain strong. Moreover, an initial admission of vulnerability is
so likely to be met with fear, hostility, or simplistic attempts
to heal or convert that all but the most courageous will retreat
behind their walls.
-
- There is no such thing as instant
community under ordinary circumstances. It takes a great deal of
work for a group of strangers to achieve the safety of true
community. Once they succeed, however, it is as if the floodgates
were opened. As soon as it is safe to speak one's heart, as soon
as most people in the group know they will be listened to and
accepted for themselves, years and years of pent-up frustration
and hurt and guilt and grief come pouring out. And pouring out
ever faster. Vulnerability in community snowballs. Once its
members become vulnerable and find themselves being valued and
appreciated, they become more and more vulnerable. The walls come
tumbling down. And as they tumble, as the love and acceptance
escalates, as the mutual intimacy multi-plies, true healing and
converting begins. Old wounds are healed, old resentments
forgiven, old resistances overcome. Fear is replaced by
hope.
-
- So another of the characteristics
of community is that it is healing and converting. Yet I have
deliberately not listed that characteristic by itself, lest the
subtlety of it be misunderstood. For the fact is that most of our
human attempts to heal and convert prevent community. Human beings
have within them a natural yearning and thrust toward health and
wholeness and holiness. (All three words are derived from the same
root.) Most of the time, however, this thrust, this energy, is
enchained by fear, neutralized by defenses and resistances. But
put a human being in a truly safe place, where these defenses and
resistances are no longer necessary, and the thrust toward health
is liberated. When we are safe, there is a natural tendency for us
to heal and convert ourselves.
-
- Experienced psychotherapists
usually come to recognize this truth. As neophytes they see it as
their task to heal the patient and often believe they succeed in
doing so. With experience, however, they realize that they do not
have the power to heal. But they also learn that it is within
their power to listen to the patient, to accept him or her, to
establish a "therapeutic relationship." So they focus not so much
on healing as on making their relationship a safe place where the
patient is likely to heal himself.
-
- Paradoxically, then, a group of
humans becomes healing and converting only after its members have
learned to stop trying to heal and convert. Community is a safe
place precisely because no one is attempting to heal or convert
you, to fix you, to change you. Instead, the members accept you as
you are. You are free to be you. And being so free, you are free
to discard defenses, masks, disguises; free to seek your own
psychological and spiritual health; free to become your whole and
holy self.
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- A LABORATORY FOR PERSONAL
DISARMAMENT
-
- Toward the end of a two-day
community experience in 1984 a late-middle-aged lady announced to
the group: "I know Scotty said we weren't supposed to drop out,
but when my husband and I got home yesterday evening we were
seriously considering doing just that. I didn't sleep very well
last night, and I almost didn't come here this morning. But
something very strange has happened. Yesterday I was looking at
all of you through hard eyes. Yet today for some reason - I don't
really understand it - I have become soft-eyed, and it feels just
wonderful."
-
- This transformation - routine in
community - is the same as that described in the story of the
rabbi's gift. The decrepit monastery, a dying group, came alive
(and into community) once its members began looking at each other
and themselves through "soft eyes," seeing through lenses of
respect. It may seem strange in our culture of rugged
individualism that this transformation begins to occur precisely
when we begin to "break down." As long as we look out at each
other only through the masks of our composure, we are looking
through hard eyes. But as the masks drop and we see the suffering
and courage and brokenness and deeper dignity underneath, we truly
start to respect each other as fellow human beings.
-
- Once when I was speaking about
community to the governing body of a church, one of the members
wisely commented: "What I hear you saying is that community
requires the confession of brokenness." He was correct of course.
But how remarkable it is that in our culture brokenness must be
"confessed." We think of confession as an act that should be
carried out in secret, in the darkness of the confessional, with
the guarantee of professional priestly or psychiatric
confidentiality. Yet the reality is that every human being is
broken and vulnerable. How strange that we should ordinarily feel
compelled to hide our wounds when we are all wounded!
-
- Vulnerability is a two-way street.
Community requires the ability to expose our wounds and weaknesses
to our fellow creatures. It also requires the capacity to be
affected by the wounds of others, to be wounded by their wounds.
This is what the woman meant by "soft eyes." Her eyes were no
longer barriers, and she did, indeed, feel wonderful. There is
pain in our wounds. But even more important is the love that
arises among us when we share, both ways, our woundedness. Still,
we cannot deny the reality that this sharing requires a risk in
our culture - the risk of violating the norm of pretended
invulnerability. For most of us it is a new - and, seemingly,
potentially dangerous - form of behavior.
-
- It may seem odd to refer to
community as a laboratory. The word implies a sterile place filled
not with softness but with hardware. A laboratory can better be
defined, however, as a place designed to be safe for experiments.
We need such a place, because when we experiment we are trying out
- testing - new ways of doing things. So it is in community: it is
a safe place to experiment with new types of behavior. When
offered the opportunity of such a safe place, most people will
naturally begin to experiment more deeply than ever before with
love and trust. They drop their customary defenses and threatened
postures, the barriers of distrust, fear, resentment, and
prejudice. They experiment with disarming themselves. They
experiment with peace - peace within themselves and within the
group. And they discover that the experiment works.
-
- An experiment is designed to give
us new experience from which we can extract new wisdom. So it is
that in experimenting with personally disarming themselves, the
members of a true community experientially discover the rules of
peacemaking and learn its virtues. It is a personal experience so
powerful that it can become the driving force behind the quest for
peace on a global scale.
-
- A GROUP THAT CAN FIGHT
GRACEFULLY
-
- It may at first glance seem
paradoxical that a community that is a safe place and a laboratory
for disarmament should also be a place of conflict. Perhaps a
story will help. A Sufi master was strolling through the streets
one day with his students. When they came to the city square, a
vicious battle was being fought between government troops and
rebel forces. Horrified by the bloodshed, the students implored,
"Quick, Master, which side should we help?"
-
- "Both," the Master
replied.
-
- The students were confused. "Both?"
they demanded. "Why should we help both?"
- "We need to help the authorities
learn to listen to the aspirations of the people," the Master
answered, "and we need to help the rebels learn how not to
compulsively reject authority."
-
- In genuine community there are no
sides. It is not always easy, but by the time they reach community
the members have learned how to give up cliques and factions. They
have learned how to listen to each other and how not to reject
each other. Sometimes consensus in community is reached with
miraculous rapidity. But at other times it is arrived at only
after lengthy struggle. Just because it is a safe place does not
mean community is a place without conflict. It is, however, a
place where conflict can be resolved without physical or emotional
bloodshed and with wisdom as well as grace. A community is a group
that can fight gracefully.
-
- That this is so is hardly
accidental. For community is an amphitheater where the gladiators
have laid down their weapons and their armor, where they have
become skilled at listening and understanding, where they respect
each others' gifts and accept each others' limitations, where they
celebrate their differences and bind each others' wounds, where
they are committed to a struggling together rather than against
each other. It is a most unusual battleground indeed. But that is
also why it is an unusually effective ground for conflict
resolution.
-
- The significance of this is hardly
slight. There are very real conflicts in the world, and the worst
of them do not seem to go away. But there is a fantasy abroad.
Simply stated, it goes like this: "If we can resolve our
conflicts, then someday we shall be able to live together in
community." Could it be that we have it totally backward? And that
the real dream should be: "If we can live together in community,
then someday we shall be able to resolve our
conflicts"?
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- A GROUP OF ALL
LEADERS
-
- When I am the designated leader I
have found that once a group becomes a community, my nominal job
is over. I can sit back and relax and be one among many, for
another of the essential characteristics of community is a total
decentralization of authority. Remember that it is
anti-totalitarian. Its decisions are reached by consensus.
Communities have sometimes been referred to as leaderless groups.
It is more accurate, however, to say that a community is a group
of all leaders.
-
- Because it is a safe place,
compulsive leaders feel free in community - often for the first
time in their lives - to not lead. And the customarily shy and
reserved feel free to step forth with their latent gifts of
leadership. The result is that a community is an ideal
decision-making body. The expression "A camel is a horse created
by a committee" does not mean that group decisions are inevitably
clumsy and imperfect; it does mean that committees are virtually
never communities.
-
- So it was in 1983 when I needed to
make some difficult major decisions in my life - so difficult that
I knew I was not intelligent enough to make them alone even with
expert advice. I asked for help, and twenty-eight women and men
came to my aid from around the country. Quite properly, we spent
the first 80 percent of our three days together building ourselves
into a community. Only in the last few hours did we turn our
attention to the decisions that needed to be made. And they were
made with the speed and brilliance of lightning.
-
- One of the most beautiful
characteristics of community is what I have come to call the "flow
of leadership." It is because of this flow that our community in
1983 was able to make its decisions so rapidly and effectively.
And because its members felt free to express themselves, it was as
if their individual gifts were offered at just the right moment in
the decision-making process. So one member stepped forward with
part A of the solution. And since the community recognized the
wisdom of the gift, everyone deferred to it so that instantly,
almost magically, a second member was free to step forward with
part B of the solution. And so it flowed around the
room.
-
- The flow of leadership in community
is routine. It is a phenomenon that has profound implications for
anyone who would seek to improve organizational decision-making -
in business, government, or elsewhere. But it is not a quick trick
or fix. Community must be built first. Traditional hierarchical
patterns have to be at least temporarily set aside. Some kind of
control must be relinquished. For it is a situation in which it is
the spirit of community itself that leads and not any single
individual.
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- A SPIRIT
-
- Community is a spirit - but not in
the way that the familiar phrase "community spirit" is usually
understood. To most of us it implies a competitive spirit, a
jingoistic boosterism, such as that displayed by fans of winning
football teams or the citizens of a town in which they take great
pride. "Our town is better than your town" might be taken as a
typical expression of community spirit.
-
- But this understanding of the
spirit of community is profoundly misleading as well as dreadfully
shallow. In only one respect is it accurate. The members of a
group who have achieved genuine community do take pleasure, even
delight - in themselves as a collective. They know they have won
something together, collectively discovered something of great
value, that they are "onto something." Beyond that the similarity
ends. There is nothing competitive, for instance, about the spirit
of true community. To the contrary, a group possessed by a spirit
of competitiveness is by definition not a community.
Competitiveness is always exclusive; genuine community is
inclusive. If community has enemies, it has begun to lose the
spirit of community - if it ever had it in the first
place.
-
- The spirit of true community is the
spirit of peace. People in the early stages of a
community-building workshop will frequently ask, "How will we know
when we are a community?" It is a needless question. When a group
enters community there is a dramatic change in spirit. And the new
spirit is almost palpable. There is no mistaking it. No one who
has experienced it need ever ask again "How will we know when we
are a community?"
-
- Nor will one ever question that it
is a spirit of peace that prevails when a group enters community.
An utterly new quietness descends on the group. People seem to
speak more quietly; yet, strangely, their voices seem to carry
better through the room. There are periods of silence, but it is
never an uneasy silence. Indeed, the silence is welcomed. It feels
tranquil. Nothing is frantic anymore. The chaos is over. It is as
if noise had been replaced by music. The people listen and can
hear. It is peaceful.
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- But spirit is slippery. It does not
submit itself to definition, to capture, the way material things
do. So it is that a group in community does not always feel
peaceful in the usual sense of the word. Its members will from
time to time struggle with each other, and struggle hard. The
struggle may become excited and exuberant with little, if any,
room for silence. But it is a productive, not a destructive,
struggle. It always moves toward consensus, because it is always a
loving struggle. It takes place on a ground of love. The spirit of
community is inevitably the spirit of peace and love.
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- The "atmosphere" of love and peace
is so palpable that almost every community member experiences it
as a spirit. Hence, even the agnostic and atheist members will
generally report a community-building workshop as a spiritual
experience. How this experience is interpreted, however, is highly
variable. Those with a secular consciousness tend to assume that
the spirit of community is no more than a creation of the group
itself; and beautiful though it may be, they will leave it at
that. Most Christians, on the other hand, tend toward a more
complicated understanding.
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- In the latter frame of reference
the spirit of community is not envisioned as a purely human spirit
or one created solely by the group. It is assumed to be external
to and independent of the group. It therefore is thought of as
descending upon the group, just as the Holy Spirit is said to have
descended upon Jesus at his baptism in the form of a dove. This
does not mean, however, that the spirit's visitation is accidental
or unpredictable. It can fall upon and take root only in fertile,
prepared ground. Thus for those of Christian orientation the work
of community building is seen as preparation for the descent of
the Holy Spirit. The spirit of community is a manifestation of the
Holy Spirit.
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- This does not mean that community
is solely a Christian phenomenon. I have seen community develop
among Christians and Jews, Christians and atheists, Jews and
Muslims, Muslims and Hindus. People of any religious persuasion or
none whatever can develop community. Nor does it mean that a
belief in Christianity is a guarantee of community. It is reported
that some men saw Jesus' disciples casting out demons in his name,
and they thought that this was an easy formula. So with no more
thought, they went up to some demoniacs and shouted, "Jesus,
Jesus, Jesus." But absolutely nothing happened, except that the
demons laughed at them.
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- So it is with groups. A group of
Christians who are not prepared can sit around shouting "Jesus,
Jesus, Jesus" until they are blue in the face, and nothing will
happen. They will move no closer to community. On the other hand,
any group of people (no matter what their religious persuasion or
whether the word "Jesus" is ever spoken) who are willing to
practice the love, discipline, and sacrifice that are required for
the spirit of community, [the spirit] that Jesus extolled
and exemplified, will be gathered together in his name and he will
be there.
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- My own frame of reference is
Christian, and for me. therefore, the spirit of community, which
is the spirit of peace and love, is also the spirit of Jesus. But
the Christian understanding of community would go even beyond
this. The doctrine of the Trinity - of three in one - holds that
Jesus, God and the Holy Spirit, while separate in one sense are
the same in another. So when I talk of Jesus being present in
community, I am also speaking of the presence of God and the Holy
Spirit.
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- In Christian thought the Holy
Spirit is particularly identified with wisdom. Wisdom is
envisioned as a kind of revelation. To the secular mind we humans,
through thought, study and the assimilation of experience, arrive
at wisdom. It is our own achievement. We somehow earn it. While
Christian thinkers hardly denigrate the value of thought, study,
and experience, they believe that something more is involved in
the creation of wisdom. Specifically, they believe wisdom to be a
gift of God and the Holy Spirit.
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- The wisdom of a true community
often seems miraculous. This wisdom can perhaps be explained in
purely secular terms as a result of the freedom of expression, the
pluralistic talents, the consensual decision making that occur in
in community. There are times however, when this wisdom to be more
a matter of divine spirit and possible divine intervention. This
is one of the reasons why the feeling of joy is such a frequent
concomitant of the spirit of community. The members feel that they
have been temporarily - at least partially - transported out of
the mundane world of ordinary preoccupations. For the moment it is
as if heaven and earth had somehow met.
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- M. Scott Peck, psychiatrist and
author of several best-selling books on relationship and community
including The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love,
Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth (Simon and Schuster,
1978), People of the Lie: the Hope for Healing Human Evil (Simon
and Schuster, 1983), and The Different Drum: Community-Making and
Peace (Simon and Schuster, 1987), is also co-founder of the
Foundation for Community Encouragement. He and his staff have
conducted over 275 workshops on community-building. The Foundation
can be reached at 7616 Gleason Rd., Knoxville, TN 37919-6816, or
call (615) 690-4334.
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- Peck's analysis of
community-building is that any group of individuals that wishes to
grow into a community undergoes four stages which he calls
"pseudo-community," "chaos," "emptiness," and finally, true
community. Similarity to the individual stages through which "free
school" children go (such as at Summerhill) is to me striking. It
certainly fits what we ourselves have experienced in the Free
School - and in the community. Would-be new members of the
community in the end always come up against them - and not
everyone can allow the process to go to
completion!
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- Footnotes
*
Robert Bellah et al., Habits of the Heart (Berkeley, Calif.:
Univ. of California Press, 1985), p. p. 286.
** M. Scott Peck, People of the Lie:
The Hope for Healing Human Evil (New York: Simon and Schuster,
1983).
*** Trans. Ira Progoff (New York:
Julian Press, 1969), p. 92.
- Ý J. W. Mackail, ed., The
Greek Anthology (1906), Vol 111, Apology,
p. 38.